tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4806583390456631318.post4011569884528176929..comments2023-05-06T22:34:34.612-07:00Comments on yakihito: Kissing In JapanAdamhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10170714969815198344noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4806583390456631318.post-58287099833769080132009-11-03T16:59:50.347-08:002009-11-03T16:59:50.347-08:00Huh, this is very interesting. My wife stated tha...Huh, this is very interesting. My wife stated that kissing is relatively new to Japan, and I saw similar stuff elsewhere in Asia. I never really thought about it as relating ot foreplay only, but I guess that makes sense. That actually explains a lot.<br /><br />Actually, I got used to the less-affectionate-in-public way of relationships, through dating Japanese girls. It took some getting used to, and we somehow meet halfway. I realized that Japanese girls express their love in the open differently, but no less than Western girls. Once I figured this out, I think it made me appreciate things my wife did for me a lot more.<br /><br />I hope there's more studies on this, and not in a "Western-centric" way. The conservative, Confucian approach seems dated to someone like me, but I think there's a lot to understand under the surface to appreciate and udnerstand.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4806583390456631318.post-17620490564761752372009-10-31T11:13:17.606-07:002009-10-31T11:13:17.606-07:00It's OK if gaijin make out in public? Even in ...It's OK if gaijin make out in public? Even in America making out in public is kinda too much. It's one thing to hold hands and hug, but face smash?<br /><br />Also, I was surprised when I went to Korea how much PDA there is. They don't make out but everything else seems OK. Then again, it seems like a much more touchy feely culture than Japan, with friends often walking arm in arm and holding hands.Adamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10170714969815198344noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4806583390456631318.post-55334667658936567222009-10-31T11:01:58.251-07:002009-10-31T11:01:58.251-07:00And one more thing, if you are non-Japanese, (yeah...And one more thing, if you are non-Japanese, (yeah, gaijin), that's totally okay thing to do (kissing hugging in public)because when you guys do it, it looks cool. Isn't that twisted??Seiko again!http://seikov555.exblog.jp/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4806583390456631318.post-87991262320188379362009-10-31T10:58:21.612-07:002009-10-31T10:58:21.612-07:00I remember people were saying about the couple as ...I remember people were saying about the couple as バカップル when they see any affectionate couple in public (kissing, hugging, or even holding hands) because Japanese people thought "that's a really private thing, why don't you do it when you guys are in private place!? No one want to see your いちゃいちゃ in public".<br /><br />....It is culture difference because you know, Japan is still somewhat "saving face"culture and it's changing. <br />As you mention, young people aren't more afraid of showing their affection and now I totally think that's cool.<br /><br />One thing I thought it's really tough to live in Japan with Sully (if we ever going to live in Japan)is,,,,,whenever we are affectionate to each other in public, people will look at us as we are some kind of shameless バカップル (and interracial couple would still stands out in Japan).....<br /><br />I really think basically Japanese people are polite, but I know they can be really mean to our own people.<br />But like I said, it's changing. Japanese people will be more affectionate to each other in public because we will be less scared about showing our feeling and less scared of "what other people might think"......which I think it's a good change.SEIKOV!!!http://seikov555.exblog.jp/noreply@blogger.com